I’ve seen families where parents treat their children worse than their friends and their spouses worse than strangers. The quality of our relationships is a predictor of the quality of our lives because most of life’s meaning lies within the context of other people.We’re mothers and fathers and spouses, brothers and sisters, friends and neighbors, employers and employees and teachers and students.So it’s in those relationships that we can do the most good and experience the most meaning. But the irony is that a life exclusively or even mostly focused on the self is a life missing a fundamental ingredient to purpose and happiness.We are at our most noble and decent when we are in the service of others. So love those who are open to being loved and figure out a way to love those who aren’t.Sometimes, in the morning, at night and in between. I knew pretty early in the process that I wanted to spend forever with you. but all the while we were the very best of friends.We clicked instantly, and you quickly became one of my favourite people on earth, and one of my closest friends. I guess, in our case, real life will now imitate art. Thank you for agreeing to be my lover and best friend. PS: The timing of this may make some people think this is promo for another video, or a movie. Ironically, everyone who has seen us together in art, or in life, always insists that we have amazing chemistry. In February of 2017, I asked Adesua Tolulope Oluwaseun Etomi to be my wife.
When, on the other hand, we live our lives dedicated to those things that matter most, a greater sense of happiness rubs up against us, walks beside us, calls on us, and even moves in and redecorates our bathrooms. But deciding what matters and what doesn’t is sometimes, and for some people, less obvious. Our values identify what’s important to us and how we prioritize our time, energy and attention. They define the outer limit of what we’re willing to tolerate and what we’re not.
This is especially true in a Hollywood-centric, pop-culture saturated media-driven ethic. They determine the context of what we’re willing to pursue and what we won’t.
In such a culture, the substanceless can appear heavy with content, the silly can look profound and the meaningless can seem pregnant with meaning. We’re set adrift to flounder in the uncertain moral muck of life when we lack a well-defined set of moral values on which to stand.
What you believe in — what you trust as right and wrong, true and false, good and bad — plays a significant role in how happy you are able to become. It is the seed of planning and goals and steps taken toward dreams and through challenges and into happiness. It is a life untethered from an assurance beyond the obvious, seen and tangible.
Whether we are talking about faith in God or humanity or Truth or yourself, that faith is critical to living life anywhere near its potential. Faith propels us into the dark through to the other side of night.