But remember that a trait you loathe in your husband may be the flip-side of one you love, says South Florida–based licensed marriage and family therapist Nakya Reeves.Say your spontaneous husband has trouble staying on schedule. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there. She doesn’t have to stay with you, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not. Take full accountability for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of you. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of you that is asking to be healed. (Okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.
RELATED: 10 Things Your Husband's Friends Won't Tell You7.While you remember the exact date and time of your engagement, your husband likely doesn't.If a milestone matters to you, communicate that directly with your husband beforehand. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen. Be present Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid. Give her space The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time. Truth is, I loved being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. Yes, it's demeaning, but keep the situation in perspective," says relationship expert April Masini.